A Dancer’s Farewell, Not as Choreographed

When Abi Stafford Lillo took her closing curtsy final fall after greater than 20 years at New York Metropolis Ballet, it seemed like a typical dancer retirement, with colleagues handing her bouquets because the viewers applauded wildly.

However her smile that afternoon masked what had change into a bitter dispute behind the scenes between the ballerina and the corporate.

Ms. Lillo, 40, stated she determined to depart as a result of she felt she had been sidelined since her estranged brother, Jonathan Stafford, turned Metropolis Ballet’s creative director. Then, she stated, she was reduce from the opening evening forged of her closing ballet, “Russian Seasons,” by its choreographer, Alexei Ratmansky. He informed her in a textual content that “the lads have been struggling” to associate her — which she thought-about “physique shaming,” she stated in an interview.

Metropolis Ballet officers countered that Ms. Lillo had been provided a number of roles lately that she had declined, and stated that Mr. Stafford had no say in her casting as a result of his contract prohibited him from choices involving both her or his spouse, the dancer Brittany Pollack. They stated Ms. Lillo had been faraway from the “Russian Seasons” opening not due to her weight, however due to “points along with her stamina and along with her power.”

The dispute offers a window into the advanced, usually fraught dynamics of Metropolis Ballet, a close-knit firm through which kin, spouses and romantic companions usually share a office. And it’s a reminder of the steadiness ballet corporations should obtain as they search to maneuver previous a long time of unhealthy give attention to the load and physique form of dancers, whereas persevering with to demand the power, flexibility, athleticism and artistry that outline the artwork type.

A Household Break up

Metropolis Ballet has lengthy been one thing of a household affair. George Balanchine, its co-founder, was married to 2 of its main dancers. The spouse and son of Peter Martins, the corporate’s ballet grasp in chief for many years, have been each principal dancers beneath his management. And several other pairs of siblings have danced within the firm collectively, together with the Kirklands, the d’Amboises, the Fairchilds and the Angles.

The Staffords joined the ranks of Metropolis Ballet siblings, initially learning on the College of American Ballet, its affiliated academy, after which becoming a member of the corporate. However they grew aside, at the same time as they continued to work collectively.

Rising up in central Pennsylvania, Ms. Lillo was the primary in her household to start out ballet, she stated in an interview. She recalled being annoyed when her brother and sister adopted her lead. “I wished ballet to be my factor, even once I was 6,” she stated. “I used to be simply at all times very resentful of them encroaching on my exercise.”

In 2000, Mr. Martins employed her, at 17, to bounce within the firm’s corps de ballet after six weeks as an apprentice — an unusually fast promotion. As she established herself critics praised Ms. Lillo’s method, with one writing that she “defines each step with outstanding readability.” At different instances the opinions have been extra middling, with some critics suggesting her dancing was lacking depth.

Her relationship along with her brother, which had been sturdy, began to deteriorate. She stated that she had been offended on her thirty first birthday when Mr. Stafford bought engaged. “I used to be like, OK, he’s actually attempting to make my birthday about him,” she stated.

In 2017, Mr. Martins, the corporate’s longtime chief, left after he turned the topic of misconduct allegations, which he denied and which the corporate later stated weren’t corroborated. Mr. Stafford took over, first as interim chief after which as creative director, with Ms. Whelan as affiliate creative director. In an effort to keep away from conflicts, Ms. Whelan was given oversight of the casting and employment of Ms. Lillo and Ms. Pollack. However Ms. Lillo got here accountable her brother for what she noticed as fewer alternatives.

Mr. Stafford declined an interview, however stated in an announcement that Ms. Lillo had impressed him to change into a dancer and that he had been “saddened” by the breakdown of their relationship, which he stated deteriorated after he was promoted to principal dancer. “I’ve made many efforts since then to reconnect, however our relationship has by no means been the identical,” he stated.

The Determination to Retire

Lower than a 12 months after Mr. Stafford was formally named creative director, Ms. Lillo went on a psychological well being depart. In an interview, she attributed the depart to the rift and her perception that she was being ignored in casting choices.

It was in March 2020, simply earlier than the pandemic halted reside performances in New York for a 12 months and half, that she informed the corporate she wished to depart. She charged that after Mr. Stafford took over she had been relegated to “understudy roles behind the room,” as her lawyer, Leila Amineddoleh, wrote in a letter to the corporate.

She requested for 3 years of severance pay, a launch from her contract so she may dance elsewhere, and a solo curtain name at her closing efficiency.

In written responses to Ms. Lillo’s allegations, Kathleen McKenna, a lawyer for Metropolis Ballet, rejected her declare that she had successfully been “demoted” after her brother turned creative director, itemizing 13 ballets that she had been forged in since 2019, and noting that she couldn’t carry out throughout spring of that 12 months as a result of she was injured. Ms. McKenna wrote that Ms. Lillo had additionally declined some alternatives after which had gone on depart.

“In reference to that call, she confided in Ms. Whelan that she now not beloved dancing however somewhat beloved ‘the legislation,’” Ms. McKenna wrote.

Ms. Lillo, who began lessons at Fordham’s legislation faculty in 2018, acknowledged that she had declined to carry out some roles due to accidents, her depart and different points, however maintained that she was not getting forged equitably with different principal dancers.

In an interview she stated that she had grown annoyed after she requested Ms. Whelan to study new roles, and was informed she was not proper for them. “The one factor that she stated to me that was actually disturbing or upsetting was she stated, ‘We’re attempting to do what’s proper by the ballets.’” Ms. Lillo stated she retorted, “What in regards to the dancers?”

In an interview, Ms. Whelan stated she had labored laborious to search out Ms. Lillo roles.

“I don’t assume she was handled unfairly,” Ms. Whelan stated. “I went out of my method to give her alternatives.”

‘The Males Have been Struggling’

Final fall, as Metropolis Ballet ready to return to its theater at Lincoln Heart, Ms. Lillo made plans to bounce the ballet “Russian Seasons” for her farewell efficiency.

However after early rehearsals, its choreographer, Mr. Ratmansky, requested for her to be reduce from its opening evening forged, Ms. Whelan stated. Ms. Whelan referred to as her and gave her the information, Ms. Lillo recalled, telling her that Mr. Ratmansky didn’t assume she was “sturdy sufficient” or prepared for the primary evening however that she may nonetheless dance it for her farewell efficiency.

Ms. Lillo adopted up with a textual content message to Ms. Whelan and Mr. Ratmansky, writing “I want you had given me two extra weeks earlier than you made your determination” and including that she was “persevering with to work and push,” in response to screenshots of the textual content messages.

“I’m very sorry it damage you,” Mr. Ratmansky replied. “I really feel unhealthy about it. I’m additionally sorry I didn’t handle to speak to you.”

He went on: “However please perceive. There’s numerous partnering within the piece and it ought to look easy. The lads have been struggling.” (Mr. Ratmansky didn’t reply to requests for remark.)

Ms. Whelan stated that she was by no means informed that the choice was about Ms. Lillo’s weight, and that she interpreted Mr. Ratmansky as saying Ms. Lillo was lacking the power and technical talent that feminine dancers must make partnering look easy.

However Ms. Lillo learn that textual content as indicating that it was “about how my physique seemed and never about how sturdy I used to be.”

“It’s solely as a result of I’m now saying it’s physique shaming that they’re altering the narrative,” she stated. Her lawyer wrote to the corporate that the ultimate weeks of her ballet profession triggered her “intense emotional misery” and requested for $200,000 in compensation along with the standard exit pay she had already obtained. (Metropolis Ballet has not agreed to that demand.)

Metropolis Ballet has spoken lately of attempting to alter the dialog about weight and dancer’s our bodies — and to maneuver previous a tradition has generally appeared to prize thinness above different attributes, to the detriment of dancers’ bodily and psychological well being.

The soloist Georgina Pazcoguin wrote in her 2021 memoir that her thighs have been criticized, driving her to get surgical procedure to take away fats from them. And Ms. Lillo stated Mr. Martins had as soon as criticized her weight and eliminated her from a season.

Ms. Whelan stated the corporate has new protocols about weight points: a wellness director is to be concerned in any conversations with a dancer, and dancers are to be provided entry to a nutritionist, bodily remedy and psychological well being providers. “We have now to deal with our dancers as human beings and with dignity,” she stated, noting that she didn’t see the conversations about Ms. Lillo’s closing efficiency as being about weight.

Metropolis Ballet maintains that it labored to provide Ms. Lillo the farewell that she wished however that she was not ready for that first efficiency, and famous that she had not attended firm lessons throughout the pandemic. Ms. Lillo stated that the lessons weren’t obligatory, and that she had skilled at house and on the fitness center.

Ms. Lillo was allowed to bounce in “Russian Seasons” for her farewell efficiency, on Sept. 26. Mr. Ratmansky agreed to some modifications in his choreography to “accommodate” Ms. Lillo’s talents, in response to Metropolis Ballet’s letter to Ms. Lillo’s lawyer. Ms. Lillo stated that some lifts had been modified, however it had been her understanding that the modifications have been made as a result of her associate was injured.

After her closing curtain name for “Russian Seasons,” Ms. Lillo modified out of her costume and right into a selfmade T-shirt. It learn: “I survived NYCB.”